I talked to Cynthia yesterday about the possibility of putting in two. As I mentioned before, she's always been into it and is extremely excited about the possibility of twins. I told her I was reconsidering it (based on a lot of your comments) and told her about all the possible risks. I mentioned she could be put on bed rest, more likely to have a C-section, etc, etc. and she said that if the doctor thinks she can do it, then she'll very happily go for it.
With that in mind, Dan and I met with the doctor in Santa Monica this morning about the frozen egg program. I know I've said this before but I LOVE HIM! In this 6 years of meeting with a million doctors, I've never been so impressed with someone's honesty, bedside manner and knowledge. He is a professor at USC and sure does know how to explain things, he is very analytical and takes the time to listen and substantiate his thoughts.
Anyway. He is open to transferring one of our donor sperm embryos from CC.RM and a donor egg embryo created with Dan's sperm, both on the same cycle. And he is not trying to sell me anything here, he asked me why consider donor eggs when I had those other two. He believes that those 2 embryos could very well create 2 babies. He also mentioned some studies showing that an older egg with young sperm and vice versa have higher rates than old sperm with old eggs, the young mitochondria, or whatever, gives them a boost kind of thing. So the fact that those embryos were created with young sperm does increase the chances in his opinion, this is on top of being transferred to a proven uterus. Then we explained that we want to give Dan a chance to have his bio child, and of course, if it was the eggs all along, then we could possibly not have to have Cynthia cycle again.
If we go this route I need a guarantee that we would get a blast to transfer. He suggested using fresh eggs instead of frozen for a better outcome, the donor we like is not cycling anymore, just has frozen eggs. We would need to go with what will give us better success, of course.
Yes, there is the RBA bank, thanks for the suggestion! Three things though, and I'm not crossing that option out yet. First I don't like that RBA only shows baby pictures of the donors. I like to see them as adults. Second, I don't like that they are Anonymous. Dan and I have agreed that being open to our children (OMG, if that ever happens!) is the way to go. We want to be honest about their origin and they might want to meet their bio parents at some point. Our sperm donor agreed to one meeting with the child and we want the same from the egg donor. I think it's only fair for the child.
Number three is that it's in Atlanta. I like it here, I'm done with traveling if I can help it. The clinic here looks amazing, modern, has a great lab and I love the doctor!
So that's the latest ladies. We have time to think some more. The doctor is going to come up with a price for us using fresh eggs to get one or two blasts at the lowest cost. I will have to pick another donor, and that's OK, most of the donors are very pretty and smart.
What do you think? With this we will cover a possible uterine problem, a possible egg problem and a sperm problem. Now, if we have an egg AND sperm problem at the same time, we are screwed!