I'm 41 years old now, just finished our 5th IVF and have no clear answer as to why it hasn't worked yet. I'm trying to figure out what the next step should be... Welcome to my nightmare and thanks for reading.
PS~ English is my second language so please forgive my errors :)
I've been thinking about how open do I want to be. We had agreed that in the amazing event that we do end up having a child, or two, that we will be absolutely open with them in terms of how they came to this world. That means sharing the surrogacy, of course, that's a no brainer, but also the donor sperm/donor egg situation.
But how much do we want to share with friends and family? Cynthia knows that there is a third party involved and I can trust that she will keep it a secret. I'm not worried, but how about everyone else?
I truly do not want to share. Maybe I'm underestimating people but I don't think everyone understands and I don't want to be judged or my kids to be seen as different. On the other hand, I love to be open and help make this option less of a taboo, but not at the expense of breaking into my child's privacy, if you know what I mean.
So I may, at some point, make this blog somewhat private, which I'm a bit bummed about. There are photos of me all over and I never changed anyone's name, location, or anything. Anyone can find me really easily if they look, and that has been bothering me a bit since moving onto donor gametes.
How do I make the transition? Should I just take all photos down and edit my whole blog? Should I make it private all together and password protected? How can I help women in my situation if no one can access it? One of the main reasons for me to start this blog, along with the support that I get from all of you of course, is that I want to share with others. I had benefited from other's experiences and I wanted to give back.